Hello all,
I am writing because I need some counseling. My poor hubby is having a very hard time with the raw thing. We have been about 75% raw until Monday (Tuesday for him) and decided to do 100% for 2 weeks just to see if we could do it and how it affected our health. He has been dropping inches (and weight) which is great for him! He wasn’t too overweight to start with but his LDL was high on his last bout of blood work and we have been working towards a healthier him. He’s only 25 so we needed to do something! :) Since going 75% raw he has dropped from a 38 to a 36 (today got comfortably into the 36). The reason we were 75% raw is because I love baking bread! I am not even kidding you when I say LOVE! It is hands down on of my favorite things. I love bread and he does as well. But I am not carb addicted like he is so I am doing a lot better with the transition.
Alright there is the basic background. Can anyone offer any advice for him. I did a search in the forum and found some stuff but not much. He isn’t getting enough food, I know that. I think his metabolism has speed up and he feels like the only way he can compensate is through consuming grains (carbs). My bread wasn’t bad but it isn’t raw… He’s highly irritable, really fidgety and constantly on the defensive. This isn’t like him. We had a big blow out argue today about NOTHING…and that NEVER happens. Please, ANY advice/recommendations would be GREATLY appreciated!
Thanks!
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I must agree with Superfood. Also do you juice or make green smoothies? Variety variety variety too and not just in fruit. Hope things go better for you quickly.
He is having a hard time with anything really new. We made “tacos” last night and he gorged himself to the point of his stomach distending. He isn’t getting sprouts every day and he fights eating Kale as well as some other greens. He gets them down but grumbles the entire time. He really doesn’t, I just feel like he does because I am so into doing this. We aren’t getting green smoothies. No Vitamix or juicer yet (I’m working on that). But he is getting a variety of fresh fruits and veggies as well as some nuts. I was really impressed that he wanted to try the taco’s since neither of us really like walnuts. It was funny, he said something interesting, he said “when I started eating this it was amazing and then as I continued the flavor stopped being so good and it’s really not doing it for me anymore…” Mind you that was after probably 5 or 6 tacos…piggy :-p Most of his outbursts are attacking me so it’s really hard for me not to respond. Yesterday it was me asking him what kind of walnuts he got (b/c he went to the conventional store) he said they were fine and just walnuts. I was surprised so I double checked “just walnuts huh, cool” and he said meekly “with BHT.” I was like WHAT! I’m not eating that. And he flipped out…it was not fun for me. It resulted in me getting up and getting out of my comfy cloths to go to Whole Foods and get some Raw Walnuts. He decided to come and apologized probably 10 times. Anyway, Whole Foods is like 30 minutes away that’s why he hadn’t gone. But he really wanted to try the taco’s so I wanted to encourage that. We do have a fruit smoothie in the wee hours of the AM with Raw Hemp Protein. We get up super early for work so this is a good starter when your tummy still hasn’t waken up. I find the detox information interesting. That would make sense. At 75% he was a little sensitive about things but not bad. I am growing sprouts now…they should be ready today. We will see how this goes the next few days. Thanks!
If we are both detoxing and doing so emotionally wouldn’t it be a raw diet issue? Since I feel that I am hyper-sensitive right now I will come back to your post at a later point in time and hopefully I will find it more constructive. Thank you.
First and for most, thank you. Jellibi & Chicory, your words are greatly appreciated and I don’t misunderstand your intentions. It is conveyed in your words. As far as my husband goes, this has been his choice. The only time I am forceful with my opinions on him is when he purchases something for the two of us that he knows I absolutely wouldn’t eat. And this is what happened with the nuts preserved with the BHT. I am not being hard on myself, I am trying to make things easier for him. That is why I was searching for information(and maybe cures) on why he seems to be so affected by this. We have a very open, honest relationship and are able to discus a lot of things, but when he gets like this (even if it is pursuing something that he wishes to do) he is very hard to be around (and since we commute an hour each way with each other and work together) I want to enjoy being around him. Very few of the posts made me upset. I understand people have their best intentions at heart, and greatly appreciate that. I was simply trying to give some background so that I could get better suggestions on how I can help my husband transition since this is something that he wishes to do. He wants to be healthy and keep up with me (I’m a bit of a spaz) and he isn’t “not healthy” but he definitely could be healthier. I love my husband dearly and just want to offer him some support, that was the main goal of my original post. If it is detoxing at least I have something to offer him, he gets very hard on himself and when he does that he starts to get very down. I was attempting a preemptive strike by providing him with some knowledge and alternatives so that he isn’t miserable. I am going to have him read Jellibi’s posts because I feel they apply more to him than me! Thanks!
jellibi, I feel like a young “jedi.” :) I think that’s part of what I love about nutrition. My husband is more passive. That’s why I was going to let him read your post. He gets inspiration from some of the strangest things…maybe that’s just because he’s from mars? Maybe I wanted to show him to encourage him that other people have internal conflicts? I dunno. I appreciate the words, love, intention though! Thank you!
kirsten, thanks for the info! I’ll see how the “magic bullet” does! :-p