Okay, so my ‘problem’ is this: Here in France, we have a raw pot luck. None of the people so far are completely raw (and there’s nothing wrong with that) except from me. The only trouble is (for me) that nearly all of the dishes have at least a few non-raw ingredients in them, such as normal cashews, agave, soy sauce etc…
At the first few pot lucks, I would just eat the food but as I keep moving on with my journey, I feel the need to eliminate all non-raw items to feel at my best, plus also the pot luck starts at 7:30 and I usually eat my last meal around 5/6.
So, my question is this.. Am I just being to picky and should I just eat the food anyway? or should I tell the truth and just be with them for company?
At the last pot luck, it was the first one were I didn’t eat anything there. I just said I had eaten before and they kindly let me have a goody bag. But obviously, I can’t say this every time!
I’ve gotten to know the main people at the pot luck well, and while they didn’t seem to mind me having a goody bag and what not, I still felt a bit uncomfortable, as they seemed a bit surprised.
And the whole point I go there is to be myself! So, what do you guys think!!?
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Thanks for your replies!!
Yes RawKidChef, I always bring my own dish… but I guess that people would just think I’m too picky or something and get hurt I’m not eating their food!?
Ahh, I guess I’m just too self-conscious!!!!
tjab… Really? Maybe it’s because in france it’s hard to find raw products apart from fresh fruit and veg… so they just buy, like the normal cashews and use them! Do you find it easy to get raw products were you live!? (without ordering on line)
Thanks guys!!
Thanks for your replies!!
Yes RawKidChef, I always bring my own dish… but I guess that people would just think I’m too picky or something and get hurt I’m not eating their food!?
Ahh, I guess I’m just too self-conscious!!!!
tjab… Really? Maybe it’s because in france it’s hard to find raw products apart from fresh fruit and veg… so they just buy, like the normal cashews and use them! Do you find it easy to get raw products were you live!? (without ordering on line)
Thanks guys!!
Hi! pianissima
(: Thanks for replying! ... I'm on the border near Geneva, Switzerland - in Ferney Voltaire. Yeah, I agree about the water thing..
It's just easier said than done!!!
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Yeah, thats what I plan to do next time!
Although, I don't know... I don't want to sound... picky.
But that is one of my faults. I care to much about what people think. I am a very self-concious person.
Thanks!
Thanks for the insight!
When you didn't eat stuff that others made, did they mind?
Yeah, I think I will just bring a simple dish to share, instead of doing an elaborate raw dish, that even I feel uncomfortable to eat!
Thanks!
I don't have any problem admitting pickiness. I don't even consider it to be an obstacle in terms of explaining myself. I just eat before I go, bring something I know I can have, and if anyone offers something I don't want, I'll tell them I'm just here to socialize tonight, or even, "I am trying a really restricted diet, so I ate before I came. But what you have there looks really yummy! Thanks for the offer!" Or something like that. As mentioned above, the community is really priceless and I'd go to a potluck even if I weren't eating anything just to see my friends. Who knows, maybe somebody will bring something new that you can have that you didn't know about before! Good luck.
Be yourself, be honest with yourself and with others and how could anyone ever fault you for that? It sounds like the uncomfortableness is a story you have going on about their own thoughts about you not eating, etc etc...it sounds clear to me. You go cause you like the company, so be honest, tell them you eat at such and such time cause that is how you feel best and you so enjoy the potlucks for the company (and perhaps the inspiration behind the foods? Who knows?)
Good luck, and don't worry.
I think you should be flexible and eat what is served. I used to be close-minded and would not even consider dishes that had undesirables in them. When I opened up, I was fine (none of the foods poisoned me). My mom says something that is good to remember when you are feeling unreasonably rigid and set in your ways: If 98% of the time, you follow your standards, and the other 2% of the time, you are not so rigid, you will make yourself and others much happier.