Constantin

Suasoria thank you (I think) for the compliment. This is all I will say about my sexuality and how I meet new people. I am a man and you are a woman we'll naturally have different perspectives on this issue if for no other reason than the fact that men are expected to court women rather than vice versa. I'm not about to limit my relationships (sexual or otherwise) to my immediate social circle just because that's what is socially acceptable.

Yes, if a girl is within my view and I find her sexually attractive, I will go over to her and talk to her to find out if she meets my standards because that's what I do (or atleast used to which is the point of this thread). I could sit back and pine over her from a distance and hope that some wild synchronicity causes me to bump into her and then have cause for conversation but I don't. I go up to her like a man, and start a conversation. Meeting new people is fun and if through the course of the conversation I find that she doesn't meet my standards for whatever reason, I have a new friend and some pleasant conversation to show for it. Call it a "piece of flesh" scenario or "the wrong way" to meet cool people, but there is the chance that I DON'T approach a future love of my life and she just walks out the door of that club or bookstore without ever speaking a word for me. I write this to explain my mindset not justify it. Hope this helps--no need for the condescension! When it comes to finding sexual partners, one of my first standards is that they turn me on!

That's cool and all...but that's nowhere close to where I'm at. Sharing my life with exciting and interesting women is one of the greatest pleasures I've had and without a good libido, I'm not motivated enough to actively approach new women. It's not a "looking at woman as pieces of flesh" type of thing. We are all animals still even if we are on a diet suited to our species. sex is one of our primary biological functions and with that out of wack it lets me know that something bigger is going on with my body.

I of course don't "hump everything in sight". I have standards, but when I meet a girl who fits those standards I want to be excited by her.