Please don't get me wrong, I think this website is great in that there are so many recipes here... and it can be very helpful. If it were my website, I would make some changes to it. Still, I understand that in a community, problems are likely to show up in the forums. Why I do not at all blame Ray or Kandace for that, I would just like to share my feelings and encourage you all (myself included) to be open minded about it. Please understand that I've placed this in the Other Stuff section and I think that gives me the right to be honest with you all (myself included).
By 'people friendly' I mean that we love each other just the way they are and we try hard to not say anything that would challenge that person in any, way, shape, or form. If someone is running off a cliff, we think that it is love to not warn them about the huge fall (and instant death) that awaits them. And then if someone was to bring up something (even and sometimes especially if it was done out of love and respect for that person), then they are often considered either barbaric, rude, religious, holier-than-thou, an animal murderer, un loving, judgemental, etc. etc. Usually, its more than one accusation.
Let me state my position. I do not claim to be any better then any of you here. I do not claim to be holier than thou, or than he, she, or even it for that matter. I've also never been to college (not yet anyway). I have no degrees apart from my high school diploma. I'm just a guy. 19 years old. I can only say that I've learned A LOT since when I first became a gone raw member. That is not to say that I know it all, or that I'm the only one with the answers. In fact, I do not have all the answers. I can get you in touch with the one who does. But that's not me.
What is my point in all this? I sincerely think that a lot of us need to be more open minded. We need to realize that people DO change. People change. I've changed a lot in the last two years. I cannot give myself one ounce of credit for that. It is all because of the work God is doing in me as he gives me more of his character and as my relationship with him grows.
I think that if we see someone running towards the edge of a cliff, it is love to tell them. Not telling them must mean that you do not care about that person enough to at least warn them about the dangers ahead. I think that there is a big difference between being preachy and/or being judgemental, condemning, etc. etc... and having a genuine heart of love and sharing the Truth with people. There is a difference between talking with those who are interested in hearing, about how they can grow and mature, and being judgemental, preachy, and all of the above. I think that if we really want to get along, we should be open to what others have to say about us. We should not want to throw flames, and we should accept the fact that sometimes even though someone might be very angry and might have terrible motives, they are right about what they say about us.
I think that when people get so sensitive to confrontations, and be so quick to shove people off because they are 'preaching' then they are not being open minded about what that person has to say. And sometimes that person is right too. And then when we get so quick to throw flames, and to fight and squabble over the littlest things, we are being childish. I think that if you cannot listen to anything that anyone else has to say about you, then there is a good chance that you are missing out on something very special and very big.
And I think that rather then getting mad at someone calling them a troll, a animal murderer, or someone who is committing 'hate crimes,' we should love them... and learn from them.
Again, please understand I am not the preacher on the pulpit with all the answers. I also am not interested in broadcasting whatever I have to say to an audience who does not want to hear. I do not claim to be holier than thou. I myself have a lot to learn. And I've also learned a lot. Not too long ago I'm sure there was at least a couple of Gone Raw members who would of hung me if they had the opportunity. And I'm sure they were right about a couple of things. Please understand that I firmly believe that people can change.
So, these are just some of the reasons that I've not been on Goneraw all that much in a while. Again, I really like the recipes and all. I think there is always room for improvement though. I understand that disagreements are common in a community setting. However, I feel that we can learn and grow. And that we ought be more open minded to the Truth. And that if we would stop throwing flames at each other and start getting along while at the same time not becoming too 'people friendly' that we cannot hear when others are warning us in love... good things would happen.
And thanks Ray & Kandace for making such a great website.
That's all I have to say. God Bless You all.
With much love,