Alrighty, this may be sort of annoying and “ventish” but seriously, our culture makes things so hard!
Every weekend there are at least a couple social events going on that I’m obligated to attend. In general, I can bring a dish or there are a couple options like salads or something like that. But when it comes to BBQ in America there is absolutely no way to get around anything. Bad quality meat slathered in sugary sauces served with mayonaise soaked coleslaw and potato salad and lard covered canned beans also loaded with sugar. There isn’t even a remote chance of finding nutritional value in it.
Unfortunately I live in Kansas City which is conveniently known for it’s BBQ. So there are many parties that get BBQ catered in. This means that I can’t bring a dish, or eat anything and be in any way discrete because all raw food looks so incredibly out of place.