I am raw. My 9 month old is raw (so far). My husband is not raw and my 3 year old is not raw. My husband is not against raw, per se, but he doesn't understand/believe, or whatever about how bad cooked food it for us and our children. I have told him. I have done the research and I know the truth, but he doesn't buy it. I really want to transition my son and keep my daughter pure. I don't know what to do here. I am at wits end. I will note that I am deeply in love with my husband and he is always there for all of us, but this issue will not go away. My life has changed now and he has not. I don't know what to do. Anyone been through this?
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Thank you for your response beany!
My son (3 yr old) does eat many raw foods, inculding green smoothies every day. Actually so does my husband. Everyone here loves green smoothies :)
He (husband) just also thinks it's no harm to have a hot dog on the side :(
I do not and will not pressure dh about his own choices for himselft, but it is the children I need to protect.
Anyone know of a video or such that dh can watch? He is not into reading much...
TIA
Hi, kristinseto,
This is just to address the part where you say "I am deeply in love with my husband and he is always there for all of us"... I just wanted to encourage you not to let this become one of those issues in your marriage that polarizes the 2 of you. The key to a good relationship, in my opinion, is good communication combined with respect. I'm sure your husband has genuine concern for your children's nutrition, too, and even if he is not well informed, those concerns deserve affirmation too. Would it be possible for the two of you to sit down in a calm environment and list out the things that are important to each of you? He may not even know which nutrients he is worried about, but if you look at what you both want together and work on it as a team rather than adversaries, you can probably come up with a great nutrition plan for your children. He may have heard that there is such a thing as Vit B12 deficiency that can cause mental retardation if untreated in children, but not remember the specifics and just be scared of the vegan diet for children. I don't know, but it sounds like if you put the time and energy into really hearing each other and working together on this, your children will not only benefit, but it will be another sucess in your marriage that can draw you together and make you stronger as a couple.
Wishing you the best.
-osoniye